Fellowshipping Repellant

The perfect candle for shooing away pesky visitations from mosquitoes...and church members hoping to reactivate you with cookies and smiles.

Smelling of citronella and flippin' boundaries, this candle is useful in protecting your sizzling apostate summer from unwanted guests!

Burn outdoors as you wile away the hours sipping rum and speaking evil of the Lord's anointed with your posse of heathens!

SCENTS

This is our simplest recipe, and that's because it's supposed to be useful more than a retreat into olfactory bliss.

This is a plain, simple citronella candle. And we made it to help you get pesky bugs (and other unwanted visitors) to vamoose.

•  Top Notes: Citronella

•  Middle Notes: Citronella

•  Base Notes: Citronella

CANDLE INSPIRATION

If you were ever Mormon, you've likely heard the phrase, "You leave the church, but you just can't leave it alone."

And if you've ever stepped away from the church, you've likely thought, "I've left the church, but they just won't leave me alone!"

I stopped attending in 2008, and I still get birthday cards, letters, and little gifts from members of the church I've never even met. I still get texts from the missionaries and local church leaders. I still get emails from the church asking for updated contact information for others who have walked away.

In Mormonism, these efforts to get inactive members to come back to church are called fellowshipping.

And, for the most part, the members are well-meaning. They often have a hard time understanding why anyone would possibly object to such kind gestures.

And, if you're an ex-Mormon, you likely understand damn well.

It's manipulative.

It's triggering.

After being shamed and shunned when you stepped away from the church, the love bombing now feels insulting and disingenous.

It can feel menacing in that it reinforces that feeling of surveillance you might be trying to get away from.

It's disorienting. It looks and feels like friendship, but it is entirely transactional.

And when they start targeting your kids, well...

The only way to make it stop is to formally resign your membership—and we love you for making this easier for people, quitmormon.org!—but this candle adds some good, light-hearted fun to the process!

And if, like me, you have reasons for not resigning yet, this candle can help you laugh through the crossing of boundaries you'll experience this summer. Siggghhhhhhhh 🙂

QUALITY + SUSTAINABILITY

All ExMo Candles are hand-poured in small batches, and each of our recipes is tweaked and tested before coming online. We take pride in the quality of our candles.

Our candles are also vegan-friendly, made and packaged sustainably, and pthalate-free. Our commitment to sustainability includes a partnership with One Tree Planted, where we donate the money to plant 100 trees for every 100 candles sold.

Finally, the removable labels on our jars make them easy to upcycle. Woohoo!

DISCREET PACKAGING

We know that you might be living with members of the church, or heck, that your mailman might be Mormon. For that reason, we've chosen not to brand our outer packaging in any way. No one will be able to tell from the outside of the box that you've ordered anything related to being an ex-Mormon. This includes the shipping label, which will simply say it's from Jen + Adri.

PRODUCT + FULFILLMENT DETAILS

The "Fellowshipping Repellant" candle is guaranteed to give you 40+ hours of burn time. It comes in a glass jar with an aluminum lid, and it measures 3.5" tall and 2.75" across. The net weight is 7.1 oz.

Because all ExMo Candles are handmade to order, please allow a 7-day processing time before your order ships out.