Licked Cupcake
Vanilla Cake, Buttercream, Lemon Peel
$29.00
Out of stock
You're not a licked cupcake.
But even if you were... Licked cupcakes are delicious! Fresh out of the bakery, this candle is meant to remind you that you have inherent, inviolable worth.
Whether you've never once tampered with your little factory, or you could go through the 2,000 stripling warriors for breakfast, you. have. worth. And nothing can take that away from you.
SCENTS
The cake and lemon peel in "Licked Cupcake" combine to create an optimistic mood. This is a fabulous candle to burn when you're planning out your week, or while you're chatting with your best friend on the phone.
• Top Notes: Buttercream, Lemon Peel
• Middle Notes: Honey, Sugar Crystals
• Base Notes: Vanilla Cake
CANDLE INSPIRATION
"Licked Cupcake" is inspired by lessons given to Mormon teenage girls helping them visualize just how disgusting they'll become if they commit any kind of sexual sin.
The classic is the "licked cupcake" lesson.
The teacher brings in a beautiful, fresh cupcake. She asks the teenage girls in the class if they'd like to have one. Squeals of delight ensue.
The teacher pauses, then dramatically licks the frosting right off.
The girls look confused.
The teacher shows the girls the top of the cupcake, glistening with saliva. "Want some now?" she says.
They recoil. "Gross! No!" they say.
And for the next hour, these girls will learn that if they commit any kind of sexual sin, they will become like that licked cupcake.
Licked cupcake lessons—and the sister lessons of the chewed up gum, the board full of nails, the torn up rose blossom, etc.—are devastating.
The "Licked Cupcake" candle stands against these lessons.
And it stands with the women rebuilding themselves in the wake of these lessons.
QUALITY + SUSTAINABILITY
All ExMo Candles are hand-poured in small batches, and each of our recipes is tweaked and tested before coming online. We take pride in the quality of our candles.
Our candles are also vegan-friendly, made and packaged sustainably, and pthalate-free. Our commitment to sustainability includes a partnership with One Tree Planted, where we donate the money to plant 100 trees for every 100 candles sold.
Finally, the removable labels on our jars make them easy to upcycle. Woohoo!
DISCREET PACKAGING
We know that you might be living with members of the church, or heck, that your mailman might be Mormon. For that reason, we've chosen not to brand our outer packaging in any way. No one will be able to tell from the outside of the box that you've ordered anything related to being an ex-Mormon. This includes the shipping label, which will simply say it's from Jen + Adri.
PRODUCT + FULFILLMENT DETAILS
The "Licked Cupcake" candle is guaranteed to give you 40+ hours of burn time. It comes in a glass jar with an aluminum lid, and it measures 3.5" tall and 2.75" across. The net weight is 7.1 oz.
Because all ExMo Candles are handmade to order, please allow a 7-day processing time before your order ships out.
Kristantea@yahoo.com (verified owner) –
Even better than the soft and sweet buttery smell of this candle is that I giggle every time I walk past it and read LICKED CUPCAKE! Lemon and Vanilla? Yes, but also it’s the smell of learning to laugh at past sexual shame. Get one, you need it, you’ll love it!!
Jen –
I’m so happy you like it, Kristan! I feel exactly the same way about this candle. It was probably the most healing of the whole lot to make because this was an issue that affected me so strongly, and it makes me smile every time I light it. Here’s to shedding all that shame!
Julie Niblett (verified owner) –
Not your mormon mother’s cupcakes! The lemon and honey make this a stand-out in the collection. So fresh and delicious, just like my un-licked miamaid, laurel, and onward self. LOL
Jen –
Here’s to letting our licked cupcake selves so SHINE! *fist bump*
Amanda (verified owner) –
I got this as a gift for my sister. Turning this traumatic church teaching into something we can laugh at is great, and the amazing scent is the icing on the cake!
Jen –
This was one of the candle ideas that started it all for us. The “licked cupcake” lessons hit me hard when I was a believer, and yeah… I needed this candle for myself! So happy to be able to share that laughter and defiance with you and your sister now! (Nice pun, BTW!!!)
Kassi Truex (verified owner) –
I love candles that smell like sweet baked treats and this candle didn’t disappoint! Not only did it fill my kitchen with the sweet aroma of cupcakes and buttercream but the scent wonderfully drifted through my home and was an absolute comforting smell. It’s also been incredibly healing to burn this and take back the power this phrase has taken from me after be called this multiple times as a youth. The years of trauma this phrase caused me while in the church it’s great to be at a spot where I can light the candle, laugh, and know I never was a licked cupcake but a powerful and beautiful Goddess. Thank you Jen and Adri for helping us heal, laugh, and take our power back as we light Outer Darkness one candle at a time.
Jen –
The licked cupcake stuff was really traumatizing for me, too, Kassi. I’m so happy that this candle can be part of your healing, you powerful and beautiful Goddess!
Shannon Grover (verified owner) –
If you are tempted to commit any form of resistance to this candle, seek help from your trusted friends. Raise your voice to the all powerful Universe and it will help you overcome inappropriate thoughts and feelings about not buying this candle. This candle is everything lovely, of good report, and praiseworthy and we seek after each one.
Make a personal commitment to light this candle every week. By your words and actions, encourage others to do the same.
Jen –
We are daughters of the Great Candle, who loves us, and we love It. We shall stand as witness of the Great Candle at all times, and in all things, and in all places!
Hehe, thank you for leaving a review that made me giggle to my core, Shannon! Happy to be lighting outer darkness with you!
John Schwartz (verified owner) –
No matter what your leaders may have told you, a licked cupcake is delicious to the taste and very desirable! Once again, Jen and Adri have created something wonderful while proudly standing up to sexual shame and the patriarchy. The “licked cupcake, chewed bubblegum, etc.” teachings were such a source of shame for so many of us. Being able to bring this home to shine it’s beautiful light has brought some wonderful humor to another harmful aspect of purity culture. As if that weren’t enough, it also smells delicious and makes our home smell like fresh baked cake all day!
Jen –
It means so much to me when someone orders this candle because this was such a source of pain for me personally. I love imagining “Licked Cupcake” burning in your home, and I love that we’re standing up to sexual shame and the patriarchy together! Go us!
Karin McKechnie-Lid (verified owner) –
This analogy was used in Young Women’s and Seminary ad nauseum, so I HAD to get this one…my NeverMo husband said that “licked cupcakes are the sweetest”. Bring on more jars of burning sin! This is a candle community I can get behind.
Jen –
Here’s to lighting all those purity lessons on fire! And here’s to being GLORIOUS licked cupcakes! Thanks so much for leaving a review, Karin!
Mallory Rogers (verified owner) –
This candle smells devine and the name makes me smile every time I light it. I had too many lessons on chastity and being like a licked cupcake, chewed gum, or used tape if I had sex. This candle is like a warm inside joke and feels like I’m taking my teenage years of shame back.
Jen –
That’s exactly what we were going for…and it’s exactly what I needed when we started making candles. So happy it makes you smile, Mallory! Down with shame!
julie herbert (verified owner) –
My kitchen IS NOT COMPLETE without this candle on my table. Like honestly these scents are so pleasant and perfectly strong. For someone with sensory sensitivities they are just a perfect balance and they laaaaast! Love this company.
Jen –
Thank you so much for leaving a review, Julie! And I’m so happy Licked Cupcake is a part of your kitchen…I love imagining that!
Andie K –
The lemon/vanilla combo in this candle is to die for. It smells amaazing!! I love how it’s sweet without being overpowering. The name itself is a great reminder for self-love after growing up inundated with such a toxic metaphor. Love that now we can reclaim it!!
Jen –
This makes me so happy, Andie! I’m really glad you’re enjoying it! You wicked licked cupcake, you 🙂 Here’s to reclaiming awful labels and feeling empowered from that! Now we need to do a chewed gum scent… 😉
Chelsea McKarns (verified owner) –
This candle is delicious smelling and not too overpowering. I love a good baked goods type of scent, but so many on the market give me a headache. This one does not.
Jen –
I’m really glad to hear that! That headache issue was something we were sensitive to when we were coming up with our recipes, and I’m thrilled we hit a good balance for you. Thanks for the feedback, Chelsea!
Megan Connors (verified owner) –
I love this candle and it was so fun to burn it and let go of the stupid lessons from those purity workbooks!
Rebekah Calabro (verified owner) –
I love the smell of this candle! It is perfectly sweet and the lemon is not overpowering. I was lucky enough to not get the licked cupcake lesson in church but I can imagine how damaging that would be. Fortunately this candle smells like a perfect, non-licked cupcake to remind you that nothing can diminish your worth!
Allison O’Donovan (verified owner) –
This is a wonderful-smelling candle, that is not too overwhelming or overpowering, but has the right amount of vanilla goodness and lemony-zing. Also was able to get a *ton* of burn time out of this which is always appreciated!